The Power of Positive Narratives in Trauma Healing

An important part of working with and healing complex trauma in yourself is having a strong sense of self, boundaries and a sense of positive direction. 

That is, a sense of why you’re choosing to heal it and where you’re going with your choice to heal - what’s your positive sense of direction?

This sense of positive direction can stem from your spiritual knowing, which is true in my case, or not, if that’s not true for you.

This might sound obvious but I think it often gets missed. Trauma too often is framed as just trying to recover from something negative that happened.

Of course it's ok (and totally relatable!) to want to heal trauma from a place of wanting to move away from the negative. 

To move away form the pain that you are feeling in your body, or the negative reflections that the unconscious trauma patterns are creating in your life

This is a valid positive direction or goal in one sense to be working towards in healing your deepest pain. 

To be able to transmute the pain, love it, and be free from the pain as you move forward. 

But, in my experience, it’s also really powerful to have a sense of what you’re wanting to create, in a positive sense, for yourself and the world, and why your individual healing journey is in service to that.

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For me, I know that I came here to heal this to experience the joy, and power, of what we as humans are truly capable of transforming; to travel with like-minded souls who are also lit up and inspired by this, and to bring the gifts of insight forward from my healing journey to contribute to the positive transformation of our collective experience. To transform our world. And to have fun doing it.

This allows the deeper narrative of my healing journey to be a passionate, joyful and powerful one. And it allows my truth to permeate all aspects of my lived experience, including my pain.

Ironically, rather than making you more attached to your trauma, in my experience, this makes it way easier to let it go, and move towards a positive future, not despite your trauma, but because of it. 

Because what you went through has taught you that anything is transformable and contains a gift, and once you have transformed it, and received the gift, the trauma is, in one sense, no longer really relevant.

Part of what makes this possible is knowing that we are all loveable and enough just as we are. That it’s not our trauma that makes us beautiful, but that who we are is already beautiful, and that how we respond to trauma can light up the night.

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I’m not trying to say that every moment of my healing journey is tripping through the daisies, but this does hold my journey in a much deeper cradle of joy for the present and the future, and make it way lighter.

I’ve found this is particularly important with healing complex trauma, because sometimes the energies you are working with in your body can be quite dense - having a light touch, and a sense of why and how you are doing this work is pivotal to balance out these energies and make the journey fulfilling, even joyful.

In my experience, once you have found your sense of purpose and positive direction, it's important to find a way to respect and hear other perspectives on trauma, healing, your journey (so as not to tip into self-delusion), but once you have really reflected on feedback honestly and found your truth -  to have a good strong sense of yourself in that, and very loving boundaries for yourself.

This is particularly in this area because some of the old paradigm narratives around individuals healing deep trauma (rape, extreme violence, sexual assault etc) have been infused with a sense of disempowerment, pity, inconvenience, and negativity.

A perception that it’s just unfortunate that such a thing has occurred to you, almost that there’s nothing to be done; that there can’t possibly be an outcome positive enough to fully transmute the pain and power. That it’s not fully healable. That maybe in some way you are less powerful, or less capable of being ‘happy’, or in some way your agency has been questioned or impacted by experiencing these things.

These beliefs are, in my experience, not true and also not helpful.

Whilst it's super important to have support and compassion around you as you heal from these experiences - and to be gentle when gentleness is called for - knowing that the experience is included in your power and is part of a  powerful positive narrative into the future where you are of service to the world because of what you have been through is just as important.

Having healthy conscious boundaries for yourself around others' definitions is really important to allow you to live the journey you want to live as you transform, harvest, and ultimately shed trauma that has become irrelevant for you.

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At this powerful time of transformation on the planet, those who have experienced deep trauma, and who are choosing, from a place of power, to transmute it in the name of love - for themselves and their planet - are needed. 

In order to do this joyfully in my experience, you need to find the positive sense of direction that's true for you, and relax into the loving embrace of a strong sense of self and solid boundaries as you walk that.

So much love, and joyful healing journeys to you all!

- Lora